Yes No Maybe: Couples App

About Yes No Maybe: Couples App

Neither of you has to go first.

Yes No Maybe is how couples find out what they both want, without anyone having to ask. You each swipe yes, no, or maybe in private. You only ever see what you both said yes to.

HOW IT WORKS

More than 100 ideas, from everyday closeness to the things you've never said out loud. You answer on your own phone, at your own pace. There's no wrong answer, and nobody is watching you answer.

Then you link with your partner.

Your maybes stay yours. Your nos stay yours. There's no list of rejections, because there's no way to see one.

WHERE THE YES NO MAYBE LIST COMES FROM

A yes no maybe list started as a paper exercise. Two people fill in the same list separately, then compare. Counsellors and sex therapists have used it with couples for years, because comparing answers is easier than volunteering them. This is that list, without the printing, the handwriting, or the awkward hand-over.

TONIGHT: ONE TAP INSTEAD OF ASKING

Knowing what you both want is one thing. Saying so on a Tuesday night is another.

Tonight is a signal rather than a question. One tap tells your partner you're in the mood. They answer privately: yes, maybe later, or not tonight. Nobody has to raise it out loud, and nobody has to explain a no.

That's usually the hard part. Initiating gets easier when being turned down costs less. Saying no gets easier when it doesn't become a conversation about what it means.

WHO IT'S FOR

There's a version of this conversation that never happens. One of you thinks about it. The other one wonders. Neither of you says anything, and the evening passes. That's the gap this is built for.

Couples who've been together long enough that the easy conversations ran out. New couples who want to start honest. Anyone living with mismatched libidos, a sexless stretch, or a dead bedroom nobody has found the words for yet. Parents who are touched out by nine o'clock and don't know how to say so kindly.

You don't need a problem to use it. Plenty of couples just want to know what the other one is curious about.

WHAT IT ISN'T

It isn't a quiz, and it isn't a game of dares. There's no advice, no scoring, and nobody telling you what a healthy couple does. You bring the honesty. The app just makes it cheaper to be honest.

WHAT'S FREE, WHAT ISN'T

Downloading, swiping and linking with your partner are free, and you'll see your first match without paying. Premium opens the rest of your matches, the discussion prompts that go with them, and the Tonight signal. It's $29.99 a year, and it covers both of you rather than one account each.

PRIVACY IS THE MECHANIC, NOT THE PROMISE

Your individual answers are never shown to your partner. Agreement is the only thing either of you sees. That's not a setting you have to find. It's how the app is built, and it's the reason people answer honestly in the first place.

Answer honestly. Compare privately. Talk about what you both said yes to.