De Meedenker

About De Meedenker

De Meedenker is the app from Het Onbegrepen Kind. Not a list of tips, but a quiet place that thinks along with you and remembers your story.

Behavior is never the problem. It is a signal. De Meedenker helps you see what lies beneath your child's behavior, and sometimes also what it triggers in you. Because you only truly understand your child when you also get to know yourself a little better.

YOU OPEN THE APP AND WE JUST TALK
No menu to start with. Tell us what is going on, by typing or speaking, and De Meedenker thinks along with you. Everything you discuss becomes your common thread, so you never have to explain who you are again.

IS THIS NORMAL?

The compass shows, for each child, what is currently going on and what is normal for that age. Crying as soon as you leave the room, exploding over a wrong color cup: you see what lies beneath and the one thing that helps today. And if things are different for you, you figure it out together. A NOTE FROM YOUR CHILD
The Meedenker writes down what your child would like to tell you about what is currently going on, based on your own story. Without a name, so sharing is safe. You see it first and you decide whether to delete it.

YOUR REGULAR 5 MINUTES
If you want to end the day together, a small moment is ready in the evening. You briefly share how it went—you can leave a voice message—and tomorrow morning your sentence for the day will be ready. No obligation and no streaks: dips are part of it, the thread just keeps flowing.

ALSO FOR YOU TOGETHER
The atmosphere in the house starts between the two of you. That is why there is a dedicated space for you and your partner: a guided evening conversation of ten minutes, taking turns, while the phone lies face down between you. Not to solve anything, but to get to know each other's inner world again. What you discuss there stays between you: the app never shares anything from one of you with the other.

DID THINGS GO WRONG FOR A MOMENT?

The undo button is always within reach. It is not that one moment that counts, but the recovery afterwards, and that is something you can learn.

FOR PARENTS, NOT FOR QUICK FIXES
De Meedenker does not provide ready-made tricks. It helps you stick to an approach, through trial and error, taking one small step every day. In the event of signs of unsafety, the app refers you to real help.

De Meedenker thinks along with you via artificial intelligence (AI). It is a tool for parents and caregivers and not a substitute for care or therapy. Intended for adults.

There are currently no in-app purchases on Android.

Privacy: https://hok-meedenker-app.fly.dev/privacy

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